Elizabeth, let me begin by adding my condolences on the loss of your father; you obviously were close to him. While you may need to sell most of his equipment, it might be a good idea to hold on to at least some of it for your own use, since you obviously want to get your own license.
I'd like to encourage you to get your license, and sooner rather than later. It doesn't matter that the standards have been, shall we say, 'relaxed' a bit- all the old traditions are still here among those who choose to observe them, and I believe you'll find most Hams a welcoming group. There are probably several of your dad's old friends who would be glad to act as your Elmer, and help you along the path. Besides, if you
DO get your Extra, you could ask for your dad's callsign- it's held for several years before becoming available for reissue, and family members who qualify have priority on asking for it
As for Morse code, it's very much alive and well- it's just OPTIONAL; just fire up one of those receivers and listen, and you'll see what I mean. It may not be a part of the TEST any more, but many of us still use it regularly. For information about CW operation, I'd suggest checking out an organization called "FISTS" at
http://www.fists.org/.
Many of our members spend time in the Novice/Technician band segments, working with and encouraging newcomers who are trying to gain proficiency in the Code. Personally I "let my fingers do the talking," and do almost all my on-air time on CW.
If you DO get your license, maybe I'll have the pleasure of working you on CW some day; I'm always willing to go as slow as necessary, and age has taught me patience. Whatever you do, I wish you GOOD LUCK.
73, Bill K3DC (Fists * 1902)